08 / 12 / 2017
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Is watching a porn film such a bad thing?

 

It's a pretty taboo subject but one of the biggest search topics on Google. Rare are those who will not admit to having already watched a porn film one day... but for fear of being frowned upon or judged for their fantasies, one prefers not to talk about it. But is watching a porn film really a bad thing? I do not believe that. On the other hand, for young adults (especially boys), not being able to talk about sex and only having the internet as a means of refuge is certainly harmful. Indeed, in seeking to educate themselves sexually, many of them find themselves watching a porn film very regularly in the hope of learning more about women and sex. What they don't know is that a porn film does not represent reality. Indeed: it is first and foremost a film. And in a porn film, there is more staging than scenes that actually happen in real life. In this article, I list ten facts that are considered false or exaggerated in a porn film.

 

Ten facts about porno films

1- Girls are thinking about sex all the time

A porn film tends to make you believe that the opposite sex (female/girls) is craving for you to offer them some sex and if you present them a great sexual scenario, they will not be able to resist. Well, that is all wrong. The only thing it will lead to is misunderstanding between two persons and that lady you approached may simply never want to hear from you again. So, opposed to what a porn film tries to tell us, most people do not want sex all the time, whenever and with whomever.

 

2 - Ladies will orgasm from no stimulation

Contrary to men, most women need continuous stimulation of their hot spots to climax, and it can take them up to 20min (or more in some cases) to come to orgasm. In a porn film, more often than not, women are moaning like if they are going to climax within a couple of minutes. This is not true. It is not only unrealistic, but it is very confusing to a man because this will rarely happen in real life with a woman. So, they may do it in a porno film, but remember that it is not a valid excuse to expect to experience it in real life because it is not happening like that.

 

3 - Everyone loves anal sex!

A porn film makes you believe that all women love anal sex and that they are ready for it with no lubrication or thought for their own pleasure. In case you did not know about it, the anus is not self-lubricating and nor does it engorge during arousal like the vagina. If you want to try anal play, invest in an anal training kit, and make sure you get plenty of water based anal lubricant to accompany it. Moreover, anal douching is also a must before any anal sex session. Remember, the women in a porn film have been thoroughly prepped before they shoot their scenes. The woman you are having sex in real life is unlikely a porn actress... But if you choose to experience anal sex and you can't realize this fantasy with your partner, consider hiring an escort girl who offers anal sex service.

 

4 - ATM is a "OK"... well, it's not!

ATM stands for ‘Ass To Mouth’ and is a common trend you will notice if you watch a porn film. This is where someone who has just engaged in anal intercourse then proceeds directly to fellatio, also known as blowjob. This is possibly the worst practice depicted in a porn film. This is completely unhygienic and foul that if you were to do this in real life, you would be exposing your partner to all sorts of health risks.

 

5 - External ejaculation is a must

A porn film nearly always shows men climaxing and ‘shooting their load’ all over their partner’s face, bum, boobs, or any other place they can easily reach. This is fine if both partners have agreed to it. However, in real life it is pretty unlikely that someone is going to be OK with that. Indeed, rare are the women who will beg for you to, ejaculate on to their face. If they have not expressly asked for it to happen, do not assume it’s OK to do that.

 

6 - The more intricate the position the better the sex

A porno film tends to depict fantastic sex as an act between two people that involves the most taxing positions, changed as often as you take a breath. In fact, all this does halt stimulation. Although, the most traditional sex positions are often the best ones. There is a reason missionary is so popular and that is because it offers overall the most contact with the clitoris. Because this little nub of nerves sits outside of the vagina it’s basically impossible to stimulate through intercourse alone.

 

7 - Foreplay does not exist

In a porno film, the action starts pretty much straight away. You may get the odd 30 seconds of foreplay here and there but overall; it is completely overlooked in a porn film. While in real life it is an absolute must. To quote American Pie: “You’ve got to preheat the oven before you stick in the turkey!” Not only is foreplay fun, but it is also a key element of a mutually happy and healthy sexual experience.

 

8 - Women love to watch

In a porn film it is often so that women want to get a good look at their genitals during intercourse then, upon seeing this splendid sight, do orgasm instantly. Well, in a real-life situation this just isn’t going to happen. Men do love a graphic sexual sight and it is widely known that most men respond to visual stimulation, but for most women it is what is in their head that counts.

 

9 - Orgasm equality is obvious

In a porn film it seems that women cannot stop having orgasms. However, recent findings show that in real world scenarios women tend to climax once, if at all during sex and report that they orgasm far less frequently than their male partners. This means that contrary to what you see in a porno film, women do not orgasm that much. So, women, be honest in bed: if you are not having an orgasm yet, do not pretend you do because it is reinforcing a stigma in men. And men, do not just assume that ten minutes of attention will be transposed to several explosive orgasms.

 

10 - They are real people

The actresses in a porn film are just that, actresses. Their job is to pretend they are having a good time in front of the camera. Even if they do not want to do a particular position, they do it because it is their job, and they are getting paid to do it. Probably none of these actresses have sex like that in real life. 

 

What to keep in mind while watching a porn film?

The thing that should be remembered while watching a porn film is that it is a form of entertainment and, as such, should be viewed lightly and definitely not as an instructional guide. There are several ways to access sexual education such as counselling, books, or publications. Porn is about as relevant to sex as Star Wars is to space. If you remember that a porno film has actors, actresses, makeup artists, directors, and cameramen just like any movie then you will see it for what it is: complete fiction.

But again, if you have a fantasy and wish to bring it into live, consider hiring an Independent Escort Girl who is very open minded and who offers a PSE (PornStar Experience). If you search properly, you will find the one who will be able to play exactly like that porn actress you love watching again and again...

 

Janet for The Velvet Rooms

 

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