How to become an Escort? Whether you are a girl looking for information on how to become an escort or a Gentleman, regular Escorts’ customer, just by reading the title of this article, you may want to laugh…and I know why. Because you are wondering what am I talking about. Because in your opinion, anyone can be an Escort. You think that they are no criteria when it comes to having sex for money. You think that anyone can be a protitute. Well, you are right. Anyone cannot have sex with strangers but not any girl can be an Escort, whose service is slighly different from the one of a regular prostitute.
Becoming a good Escort does not happen from a day to another and needs proper guidance, especially for the girls/ladies starting in this industry. In this article, I will mainly focus on independent Escorts and list the essential skills you should have before even considering becoming an Escort.
If you are only interested in the money, considering regular prostitution may be an option. But if you are planning to be in this insdustry for a while and are looking for a higher type of clientele, being an Escort may be a better option for you (please, read one of our previous article : The difference between a prostitute and an Escort).
Many girls who started this job quit within 2 months as they quickly realized that just having a pretty face is not enough in this market which has become very competitive. If you are over 18 years old, you will find here below my 10 tips to help you find out if becoming an Escort is something for you or not:
It is your own decision.
Unfortunatly, 90% of the sex working have a pimp, someone who pressures them or forces them to be active in this industry they do not belong to. If you have a „boyfriend“ or a „man“ who encourages you into this, please reconsider. It is not a good idea if this is not what you really want to do.
Have a goal !
Like everything in life, when you have a clear goal to reach, a cristal vision of the reasons why you are doing sex work, it makes the whole thing much easier to accept, it gives you strengh (because you will need it) and energy to reach that goal you have and take this Escort job as something serious which will help you to focus on reaching your goal faster. Don’t do it just for the sake of the money. If money is your only target, you will not last very long as an Independent Escort.
Feeling comfortable with strangers.
An Escort should not be an introvert person and should feel comfortable among strangers as all new clients will be men she never met before. If you are not at ease in the company of persons you do not know, how can you possibly have sex with them?
Have some conversation !
Many clients will see you to have the opportunity to have sex with you, that’s true. But 50% of them will appreciate to speak with you. Sometimes, the „talking part“ can last longer than the „sex time“. Be funny and entertaining, have some conversation, read books, learn languages, listen to the news, inform yourself about the world and have interesting hobbies. The best Escorts do not look like Top-Models. Having a pretty face helps a lot but that’s not enough. The more intellectual you will be, the better you will work. Gentlemen who have money and who are willing to spend hours with you will expect more than just some pillow-talks.
Develop your soft-skills.
If hard skills cover your technical skills, soft skills are your personal and social skills, oriented towards human interactions. Unlike the intellectual quotient, they call upon emotional intelligence and play a key role in the development of an individual within his environment.
Soft skills are specific qualities related to your interpersonal skills: concerning yourself and what you implement in a situation such as endurance, sense of efficiency, resistance to stress, resourcefulness, sense of responsibility, autonomy, flexibility, desire to learn, sense of organization, reliability, patience, taking initiatives, taste for challenge, etc. defining how you relate to others, how you collaborate (team spirit, sense of collective) or how you communicate (ability to initiate a discussion, adapting your communication style, sharpen your listening skills, etc.). The most successful Escorts have developped incredible soft-skills which help them in a very fast and easy way to naturally bond with their clients and have them come back again and again…
Be demanding with yourself !
Do you want to attract the best clients? Then show them the best version of yourself. First, be demanding with yourself before expecting them to be the same towards you. Take care of your appareance, be well-groomed, elegant, punctual, friendly, polite, customer-service oriented and you will attract the same kind of men. If you look low-class, behave and speak like a gettho girl, expect a higher number of cheap requests and time wasters trying to reach you. And remember this : „You attract what you are, not what you want. If you want great, then be great!“
Be patient !
As an Escort, your income will essentially be based on how many returning customers do you have. Your goal is to make regular and repeat customers, and that will only happen if you give them an experience that makes them happy so that the next time they book you and no one else. Indeed, regular clients represent 50% of Escorts’ income and guarantee you a certain financial stability. So yes, starting without those loyal clients is harder at the beginning and needs from you a lot of patience and obstinacy. You may have some days with no earning at all… be prepared for that and be patient. But you will see, it will pay off !
Be consistent !
The best Escorts are those Ladies who have learnt that consistency is one of the big key of their success. A man who pays for your companionship (for your time) do not like to be dissappointed or taken for granted by you because he visited you 10 times already. If another one book for 1 hour and comes within 10 minutes, well, then you still have 50 minutes to give your very best. It is not that you just do your work and walk away… Talented Escorts treat their clients, -especially the regular ones- in a very special way and make sure that their service remain the same or even better at each visit. It is not what you do once in a while that will shape your career as an independent Escort but what you do consistently. The sex industry has become very competitive, never forget this. If you cannot be consistent in your attitude and in the service you provide, Gentlemen will not return to see you just because of your pretty, that’s for sure.
Don’t try to be who you are not !
Don’t get into the trap of working with fake pictures or pictures which are 10 years old. Don’t advertise services you do not offer (or like to offer) just in order to attract more clients. List only the services you enjoy doing, update your pictures at least once a year. Men are not stupid. Don’t take them for a fool. As you are not here to wast your time, respect their time as well. In other words : „Don’t sell a product which is out of stock or which does not exist“. If you do so, expect bad reviews being written about you. Too many bad comments can quickly end your career as an Escort…even if you change your working name and your pictures. There is always someone, someday who will find you and bring back your lies and bad services on the head lines…
Remain professional and protect your privacy.
Please, don’t get blown away by this young handsome banker who looks like Brad Pitt and tells you that he wants to leave his wife and starts a relationship with you. Pretty Woman scenarios may happen but are nowadays kind of rare in this industy… Yes, this Gentleman turns head and is a regular client of you but please, remain professional. He is a client: not less, not more. And you are for him an Escort: not less, not more. Don’t fall in love, don’t ask personal questions (unless the client allows you to do so), don’t give him your private phone number or your real name. Learn how to define bounderies in order not to loose/break the nice and special „relationships“ you’ve built with each of your clients.
I hope I was able to help you to figure out if being an Escort is something for you or not. Keep on reading our blog. I will regularly publish articles written by myself which I hope, you will find interesting.
Being an Escort is a real job. It takes a lot of time, mental strengh, preparation, energy and professionalism to become a very good Escort who earns a lot of money. Don’t listen to those who will tell you that everyone can do this job because it is not true. Anyone can be a prostitute but only a few will make it as an Escort.
Janet for TheVelvetRooms
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