Hey men… Don’t get married ! by d_velvet_rooms
For those who do read my blog, you may have long understand my position when it comes to marriage. And I know that this opinion coming from a woman is kind of unusual but well… i am not like most woman. Indeed, I have been in different types of relationships, I have experienced sex life in various forms and I have been evolving in the sex industrie for a while now which gives me a bright over view of what getting married does to men, to their status, to their ego and to their sex life.
I am not a man but I know men well and I understand them very well. And I know women as well as I am one of them and I have been dealing with women for years now…
This is my honest opinion about marriage that I would like to share with all men (especially those who are not married yet) on this planet: do not marry.
Why? Because the good majority (and I mean a high percentage) of marriages sucks.
You will end up going sexless for months or even for years… Imagine taking care of a woman, paying bills, taking her on trips, buying her gifts, doing all these kind of things and she will still be holding sex on you. And if she does give you sex, it is a bargaining thing…you have to provide some sort of benefits. This is what marriage is about for most men but no one is going to tell you the true. Who wants a sexless life with no attention and no affection ?
Most married men end-up being „providers“ and if they stop providing, she will have the whole family slowly turning against you (including the kids).
And what about your freedom? After a while being married, you will not even be able to go out whenever you want to and spend time with your friends because your „significant other“ (your wife) holds this time which belongs to you. What you also do not know is that the wife you’ve just married will change after a while and when she gets kids she will change even more…
Married men will never tell you this, they will put on a mask to pretend that everything is OK but it is not. Married men loose their freedom. They thought that marriage will be this magical esotherical thing but it is in most cases a very uncomfortable situation.
When the feelings between you and your wife melt, she starts gaining weigh and not paying attention to her body and look as much as she used to but you are still fit and in shape… but you can’t leave her because YOU will be the bad guy. She, on the contrary can leave you and divorce for any reason, at any time.
You will never leave. You have too much to loose: the house you bought, your ressources, your retirement founds are tied to this woman.
Marriage life is not what it used to be. If she divorces you, she is taking the house, the car, the kids, she is taking the dog and probably half of your salary as well. Why would you put yourself in such a fragile position?
Married men are living in fear of their wife. They are afraid because they know that she is able to leave at any time. That’s the contract they signed… I know, they did not know it would be like this…
She is getting lazier and lazier, refuses to please you but well, you are bound to that contract. You are „chained“ to this situation, there is no way you can win and she knows that. This is why she does not make any efforts to be sexy for you anymore.
I have been the mistress of men who had zero support from their wife. One of them wanted to be an entrepreneur and start his own business and guess what? Instead of encouraging him, helping him moraly, being by his side and giving him support in this new project, she saw it as a risk of seeing her „nest“ being jeopardized. So she had to down-play his aspirations, she had to discourage him.
None of your male friends will ever tell you this because men keep their mouth shut. They don’t express their feelings so easily but when you get around married men a lot and ask them how is their marriage, you know what they eventually tell you 9 times out of 10 ? Do not do it.
Are all marriage like this? No. But the VAST majority are like this. No kidding !
Now ask yourself this Gentlemen, do you love your freedom? Ask yourself, is it worth it?
Married men are scared to tell you this because they are afraid to tell you that they made a mistake. Afraid to tell you that they are slowly loosing their identity, that they do not know who they really are anymore. All they do and know is to “provide”.
Why not choosing to remain a free single man who has options and can use them whenever he wants to, instead of falling into the trap of getting married and loosing all the benefits of your sexlife, your freedom and your disposal income?
Think twice Gentlemen.
Janet for TheVelvetRooms