Tips for Ladies : Why do so many “cheap” clients contact you? by d_velvet_rooms

While working as an Escort, one of the biggest challenges is to attract the most interesting male profiles. By that I mean those men who are courteous on the phone, polite in formulating their expectations, respectful during their visit and generous, even beyond your expectations.

These men are indeed in small numbers. I would say that they certainly represent 30% of all Escorts’ customers. These are the clients you should focus on. The rest will only be a waste of time and money.

So how do you attract these customers of a certain standard and transform them into regular customers? Here are some tips that I am happy to share with you.

How to recognize a “cheap” customer?

As soon as you have acquired some experience as an Escort, you will be able to detect him fairly quickly. This is usually the man who is rude on the phone because he sees you as a “thing”, not as a person. He therefore addresses you badly, do not say hello, speak to you as if you were an animal and hang up in your face when he is not happy with the answers you give him.

If by chance he manages to meet you, this client is often vulgar, sometimes even dirty (he may refuse to go to the shower), neglegted, he has little conversation and will never leave you a tip or bring you a gift. He’s also the kind of guy who wants everything included in a service without paying for it. He will ask you for a bunch of services that are not in your ad or that you do not offer because once again, he sees you as a „thing“. Often his level of English or German is bad … To make it short, if he comes to see you once, my advice: block his number forever so that he never comes back again. He is not the kind of client that you deserve and even less the one appreciate your Escort work at its fair value. It’s not an easy job so if you can choose who you want to meet, do it and refuse to accept just anyone. Nothing is more valuable than your integrity.

How to attract valuable customers?

If you find that too many “cheap” customers are contacting you, there is surely a problem in the way you present yourself. This presentation starts online. In fact, the advertisement that you will publish on the internet is generally the very first contact that the client has with you. You can’t afford a „faux pas“. The less sophisticated your ad is, the more you will attract “weird” guys. When preparing your online advertisement, make sure to:

Your pictures

Publish stylish photos of yourself. Remember that men don’t think like women. The more you strip off, the less they respect you. Showing your bare breasts, your pussy, your face full of sperm and 10cm long nails will never attract men of a certain social class. Believe me, vulgarity puts off men who have money. Present yourself in an elegant way, in evening shoes, in dress, not too much makeup and please, smile in your pictures! You will see, compliments towards you won’t stop.

Your advertising text

Make sure your text is spelled correctly and not in vulgar language. Too many girls pay a third person to write their advertising text. Very often, this person is a man who does not know you, who does not give a damn about the services you offer (and does not ask your opinion) and who will write a text worthy of a porn movie that will attract a clientele you don’t want. If he works for an erotic studio or a Club, it doesn’t matter to him who comes, as long as there are clients …

Darling, the best is actually to write the text yourself (using Google translator if necessary) and have it corrected by someone who speaks the language well (English or German). Also double check that the services listed in your profile match the services you actually offer because if not, it will automatically attract men with inappropriate requests.

Before the client is at your door step, you must pay attention to two things that are critical: the environment in which you are receiving him and how you receive him. These two elements will make the customer come back to you or not.

Your location

The place where you receive your client must be a discreet and pleasant location. Again, I emphasize that men are very visual and I can assure you that they are even more picky when they have to pay … Make sure to meet your client in a place / at an address that will not make him ashamed/uncomfortable and make sure that once inside, everything is tidy, it smells good and it feels good. Trust me, this is extremely important.

Your look and your behaviour

The way you will receive your client is also something crucial. Too many girls take their attributes for granted. Just because a customer comes to see you doesn’t mean he will stay … or even come back to you. Be elegant and smiling, pay attention to your nails (also toenails) put on beautiful lingerie, always have your heels on when you open the door and always offer him something to drink. Be interested and interesting. Be careful the way you speak : a too familiar language can play to your disadvantage. If you think the customer will come back just because you’re beautiful, you’re dreaming! If you do not know how to welcome him properly, he will leave or never return again. Of course, make sure you offer him what is listed in your “menu”. Never promote services that you do not offer: customers, especially those of a certain social level do not like to be taken for idiots.

Set your standard

My fifth and last tip concerns your rates. I have known customers who have confessed to me that below a certain hourly rate, they would not go to see an Escort because for them, a too low price means that there is “eel under the rock “. Too many “poor” people think that people who have money are stingy. In fact, it is not true. They can be very generous but it has to be worth it. They are also used to living in an environment where to have quality, you have to pay the price for it. So if you know the value of the experience you can share with a man, set your standard high. For the “Cheap” and the “timewasters” is quite the opposite: they are looking for the best deals and not necessary for a qualitative experience… You deserve better than that. Don’t you think so?

Escort vs Courtesan ? 

The best Escorts and those who manage to last a very long time in this industry have developed qualities far beyond these few basic tips that I have just given you. Their regular clients represents up to 60% of their whole clientele. What I’ve noticed about these ladies is that even with their regular customers, they managed to make them feel special, they know how to give the best of themselves at each encounter, giving their clients the impression that the 7th visit is as authentic and unforgettable as the very first one. That’s what makes the difference between an Escort and a Courtesan…

Think about it! 😉

Janet for TheVelvetRooms 

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Tips for Ladies : With or without makeup ? by d_velvet_rooms

Ladies, you know what men really think about makeup, right? They do not dare telling us this but actually, men believe that women wear makeup to „trick“ them into thinking that we are more attractive as we really are…

For many Escort Girls, looking as desirable as possible for their clients is extremely important. I am not talking about the regular prostitute or the street sexworker (for those two categories or workers, the way they present themselves may not be that important). I am refering here to the Escort Girl. This girl who works at a private/upscale location, who sees few clients per day, who has a certain education background, who can hold a conversation, who usually chooses the men she wants to spend time with and whose hourly price is relatively high. This girl, the Escort Girl care a lot about her appareance. And because she always wants to make sure she looks great, she may uses makeup to enhance her beauty features. We women, all know that makeup is not very liked by men. But does it belong to these things where less is more?

Ladies: How do you a feel when you wear makeup? 

I am a woman myself and amoung women we can talk openly. Using makeup for many of us is a way of being in charge of our own appearance and those who take the time to learn makeup skills feel even more confident because they master in the techniques of looking more „beautiful/different“ than who they really are.

Other women are already stunning and do not need any makeup but would wear some not to look like another person but rather to light up their appareance which is already amazing without face painting. But is all this really necessary? As an Escort, should you wear no makeup at all?

*You may use makeup to hide yourself: Using makeup makes you feel less noticeable, especially when you are anxious, sad or insecure. Those feelings should not be shown to clients. I agree. They are not coming for that.

*You may use makeup to be more seductive: You want to be more noticebly attractive so in order to look more confident, sociable and assertive, makeup is a must for you.

But if you are honest with yourself, you know that for most of men, makeup is not that important. It plays a role but on the long run, it is not what will make them enjoy your company. You are using makeup to position yourself among the other women… Right?

Gentlemen : Why women really wear makeup ?

I am sure that each of you asked himself this question at least once in his life „Why this girl has so much makeup on?“. And when you ask them not to wear any makeup at all, they will rarely listen to you. They would usually act like they don’t care about what you may say or may think. And you know why?

Because women are not wearing makeup for you. Women perceive other women who wear make-up as more dominant and successful. Women are more jealous of other women wearing makeup and consider them as more promiscuous. So, a woman who wears make-up would care less about what men may think of how she looks if there would be no possible point of comparison with other women. Which is not the case in our modern society. Women are constantly comparing themselves to other women.

I observed the same phenomenon in the Escort industry. Do you know that Sex Portals which target straight-men have about 30 to 60% visitors who are women? Yes! Same applies with TVR website where much to my surprise, I’ve noticed that 42% of the visitors of women… Escorts spend hours on similar websites checking-out how the other Escorts (obviously their competitors) look like…  Yes Gentlemen, makeup is one of the favorite beauty weapon of girls with a few exceptions, of course. Escorts feel probably even more pressured to look great because the „transaction“ thing creates a certain degree of expectation from men. But as an Escort client, how to approach the subjet without offending her?

As an „Hobbyist“, how to tell her…?

As a client of Escorts (Hobbyist), you are in the position to ask for certain things which matter to you and if the request is politely formulated and not on short notice, the Escort will usually make sure not to disappoint you, as long as she is comfortable with your request.

If you are not too much into makeup (some men really do not like that, especially heavy lipstick), just ask her that you would prefer seeing her without any makeup on. Some girls will say no, some will agree to meet you that way. However, don’t be too naive; do not expect her to have no makeup at all! Very few will dare showing you their face makeup free. But at least, if you mention clearly that you do not like makeup, the normal reaction of an Escort will be to use as little makeup as possible (the minimum use for her to still feel comfortable) or a kind of makeup that makes her look more natural. This way, it should make both of you happy.

Why? Let’s face it Gentlemen: although you constantly preach that you like natural ladies (you see, you told it so much to your wife/girlfriend that she now does no effort at all and her „natural beauty“ may be way less attractive to you today ;-)), we all know that it isn’t true. What you mean is that you do not like women with too much makeup. Actually, you prefer women with a natural makeup look. But makeup is still something that you find nice on women as long as it does not look to excessive. Am I wrong? So please, stop saying to women that you like them without makeup because you know and we know that it is not true.

Makeup :  less is more ? 

Coming to the end of this article, we now know the following : most women with bare-faced makeup are seen by men as friendly, inoffensive and kind but not necessary sexually attractive. Women using an average amount of makeup are usually the ones men chase the most. Glamorous/heavy makeup gives men the impression that you are an „easy“ girl… It also attracts different kind of men (quantitative vs qualitative).

Most women wear so much makeup that it exceeds what is considered attractive for men. And please Ladies, do not compare yourself with women in magazines or on social media: in the real life, they do not look like they pretend to. All this is marketing, show, illusion. Yes, in reality, the large majority of these girls look normal, just like you and I.

Makeup is important, but too many women make the mistake of wearing so much that they lose its benefits. When the makeup is not overdone, it makes you appear more classy, likeable, trustworthy, intelligent and competent.

Remember girls: men are extremely visual (on average, way more than women). Be careful of the impression you want to make and focus on using makeup to enhance your natural beauty, not to look like a completly different person.

As an Escort, you want to build a long term „story“ with your client for him to become a regular one (as we all know how precious regular clients are). Please, do not lie to him and hide yourself behind too much make up because after that „Overnight“ he may never want to book you again, seeing your face in the morning, makeup free…

Janet for TheVelvetRooms 

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Tips for Ladies : Should you have your own Escort website? by d_velvet_rooms

The number of Escort Girls having their own website has exploded in the past 10 years. Indeed, everyone tells you that regardless of the service you sell, all sectors combined, a website is essential if you want to show some kind of credibility towards your potential customers. But is this really the case in the sex industry?

The advantages of having your own Escort website

For many clients, an Escort Girl with her own site is reassuring and they tend to immediately place you in another league, that of women of a certain level. For them, this confirms that you are really independent and that you do this job by choice. Managing your own site also reflects an image of an organized and professional woman, provided of course that the general aspect of the site, the photos and especially the content are interesting and impeccably presented. The other advantage is that your site allows you to share with potential customers a lot of information upfront (prices, services …) that you will not have to repeat over the phone or via Email (if you also agree to make appointments via email). Having your own site is also an opportunity to present yourself in your best light and attract the attention of customers around the world. Indeed, the chances of being contacted by local but also international clients is much higher when you have a website, on the condition – of course – that the SEO of the site is well thought out …

The challenges of managing a website

As I briefly mentioned above, if your website is basic, visually unattractive, lacks of content and has vulgar and poor quality photos, in that case, please, don’t have a website all.

Investing in your site

If you plan to have your own website, choose a company which has experience in Escort websites design. It will cost you between 1000 and 5000 CHF for such a website. Forget free sites such as WIX, especially if you are not very comfortable with webdesign because the result will not be up to your expectations. Instead, use the services of professionals who are used to creating Escort websites. Then add the monthly site maintenance costs (between 50 and 150 CHF per month) and the annual site hosting costs (between 100 and 300 CHF per year). Over time, website-related changes and updates (which vary in price) will be added to these fixed costs.

Adding content

In order for your site to remain attractive, it is essential to supply it with interesting content. Please, no copy / paste! Only publish content written by yourself! Andi f you can’t write and are thinking of paying someone to do it for you well… then don’t have a website. A Homepage is something personal. It is your „print“. Too many Escort websites are obiously not written by them. Clients are not stupid. After talking to you for a few minutes, the smart ones will quickly figure out that you are not the one who wrote what is in your website because maybe your vocabulary is not that elaborate or maybe because they are a lot of contracdictions between the way you advertise yourself and the way you act with in the presence of clients.

The mistake made by 90% of Escorts is to create a site and never update anything in it (not even her pictures), even after 2 or 3 years. A static site that never changes quickly becomes useless. Men go there once and do not return regularly. It is essential to update your site. Your photos, working days and schedules, coming trips … are information that must be updated daily or weekly if you want to maintain a certain credibility and reliability towards potential customers. The cherry on the cake is of course to have a blog and regularly add qualitative content to improve your Google SEO.

Promoting your website

Marketing your Escort website will take you a lot of time (at least 2 years sometimes even longer). For this, you will certainly need to invest in Google Ads, create links to other sites with the same type of content as yours or targeting the same clientele and of course, feed your site with interesting content and keywords, so that it can be better ranked and identified on Google. Finally, I would advise you to create a bilingual site (a version in the local language oft he country where you are working most of the time and a version in English). Indeed, an English version is essential in this global world. Even if you speak very little English, know that the English version of your site will be better optimized by Google.

Having your own website : does it really worth it ?

In Switzerland very few Escorts have their own website. In the United States for example, you are almost obliged to have your own Escort website because all independent Escorts have one. The ones who don’t have one struggle working with high rates.

Are you wondering if having your own website will have you earn more money as an Escort? The answer is : “No”. It is not because you have a homepage that you will increase your income. Having a website is a great “business card”. It’s a different way of presenting yourself and standing out from the crowd, as long as you invest the time and money necessary to make of your homepage a real tool to better sell your services. If you have neither the time, the money, the motivation, nor the consistency required to make your Escort website a reliable and interesting platform to look at, then it is better not to have a website at all.

As an Escort, promoting your services on local and specialized sites (punters) is generally good enough to work well. Customers will prefer a well-written and well-presented profile with beautiful pictures  rather than a luxurious Escort website that seems to have been updated months ago…

Another advantage of not having an Escort website is that you don’t have to reply to messages or emails outside of your work schedule. Indeed, when you pay for your advertising on specialized adult websites, it stops when you decide. You choose when to activate and desactivate your profile. Having an Escort website which is permanently accessible online is something much more demanding. Potential customers can contact you at any time and expect a quick response from you even when you are actually not available. Not answering them or replying too late can seem unprofessional and give a biased/bad image of you.

Conclusion?

Having your own Escort website is not essential to work well as a sex working. On the other hand, it can embellish your image as an Escort (by attracting for example more customers of a high social level and / or having a higher purchasing power) and improve your income if and only if you invest in it  enough money but above all a lot of your time. If you think you can handle it, then do not hesitate and do it! 🙂

But if you don’t like to write or if you don’t know how to create interesting content, then my advice is not to have an Escort website, it will be a waste of time, money and energy for you because a homepage is interesting and has a lot of visitors only if its content is qualitative, entertaining and up to date. Otherwise, it’s not worth it. Save your time and money and rather choose to advertise on local and well established adult-platforms who are already known by Escorts’ clients.

In Switzerland the most popular Escort Girls do not have a website and do not seem to need one! 😉

Janet for TheVelvetRooms

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