The Manosphere: are you one of us?

The relationship between men and woman is no doubt the most discussed topic in world history. It just seems to be a never ending tale of squaring the circle; in other words, trying to unite male and female interests in harmony.

This challenge has over time given rise to many movements. A current movement seemingly gaining momentum is that of the Manosphere.

The Manosphere is in a short definition men who have just had enough. Enough of commitment and sacrifice in a world that offers nothing in return. Therefore they opt out of the traditional relationship, in some cases these men, know as MGTOW (Men Going Their Own Way), even renounce any romantic interaction with women whatsoever, to exclusively pursue their own goals in life.

How did it come to this? Well, according to the Manosphere movement modern feminism and the welfare state would be the short answer. In contrast to the patriarchal system of older days (with all of it's problems) the emergence of the welfare state has managed to swing the pendulum about as far in the opposite direction as it came from, which, of course, is what tends to happen with pendulums. Instead of acting as a counter balance to the power men had in relationships in the past, the welfare state, through child custody laws, alimony and social welfare programs, has shifted the power completely in the favour of women. Furthermore modern feminism with its hostility towards classic male values such as duty, loyalty and honor has managed to promote the inherent hypergamous nature of women, and thus imitate nature as to make the man the expendable sex.

Hypergamy, the practise of marrying or partnering up with someone of a higher socioeconomic status, is not some evil plot concocted by woman to exploit men though. It is simply a matter of evolutionary programming. Just like men are evolutionary programmed to spread their seeds as much as possible, and therefore are hardwired to be at least sexually interested in other women (even if not acting on it) no matter what woman they already have on their side, women are hardwired to be attracted to resourceful men, be it economically resourceful or in other ways in possession of high social status, that could provide them more value than their current partner.

Both sexes each have their particular evolutionary programming leading them to some extend. But to which extend? However important it is to recognise the completely different hardwiring of men and women it should not be forgotten to also view both men and women as individuals. This individuality combined with culture and zeitgeist determines to which extend we act on our evolutionary programming or suppress it in order to achieve our perceived optimum in life.

Here the argument by men in the western world often goes that in this day and age the cards are stacked against them; hence, the rise of the Manosphere. The stacking of the cards presents itself through the aforementioned modern feminism and the welfare state and its institutions: courts of law, social programs, schools as well as higher learning institutions and even the social sciences (most explicitly the gender study sciences, of course). Giving women this kind of power only reinforces what is known as Briffault's Law:

"The female, not the male, determines all the conditions of the animal family. Where the female can derive no benefit from association with the male, no such association takes place."

Basically women choose and men get chosen. And men get chosen on what they bring to the table in competition not only with other men but also with the state. So what does a man do apart from opting out?

Well, first of all it is important to understand the dynamics as described in this article and to figure out for yourself what it is that you want. Then comes the time to navigate remembering that we are all individuals with individual backgrounds. Some women are maybe 90% hypergamous whereas others might only be 50% hypergamous and they will act accordingly. These percentages obviously won't be printed on their foreheads for everybody to read and may not even be static, they may vary due to circumstances - one of which could be you!

Let it be clear. Relationships are somewhat of a power struggle. For a man to have some power in a relationship it is important for him to know exactly which benefits he brings to the woman in the relationship and to be able to say no. It is also absolutely essential by no means to come across as being desparate and thereby signalling a lack of options. Options are leverage. One way any man can lever up could be by starting to see call girls. If a man gets comfortable seeing call girls on a regular basis, both if it fully or only partially covers his need for sex and intimacy, this option could become powerful leverage whether he is in a relationship or seeking one. Hidden leverage, of course, but nevertheless powerful by the way it influences his mindset. The confidence of having options is a man's greatest asset in dealing with women.