MILF Escorts: Why are they so popular? by d_velvet_rooms

Do you know which Escorts are the most in demand? Teens (who are between 18 and 22) and MILFs (women over 40).

These groups represent the two most popular fantasies among men.

Primarily, it is men aged 19 to 30 who adore women who are 20 to 30 years older than them. Regarding men who are in their forties, they mostly favor pretty young women. When a man is younger he is more attracted to older women, but when he gets older he will mostly favor younger girls.

Note that when men have to choose to pay for sex, they tend to go for mature Escorts. Indeed, MILFs are often the favorites because they are appreciated by young clients but also by clients of their age who want the company of a woman, not a girl (I hope you understand the nuance)…

In this article, we will be talking about MILF Escorts whom half of their clients is between the age of 18 and 27. Why are these mature women driving these young men crazy? Here are a few reasons which may explain the attraction for these MILF Escorts.

A childhood fantasy …

Which boy has not fallen in love with his school teacher at least once in his childhood? Very few will say no. And as a teenager, he could not stop looking at his sexy teacher who often wore a mini skirt or tight pants… Very difficult as a teen boy not to fantasize about her … By discovering pornography, he also wants to know what it is like sleeping with a woman older than him.

Having become a young man, he begins to have a more regular sex life. However, girls of his age have little experience, some are still in the discovery phase. Having sex with them is not really interesting especially if he wants to satisfy some vicious fantasies. Therefore, to fill this emptiness, many young men prefer to go for mature women. If they are having trouble meeting any (or if they already have a girlfriend their age), the best way to go about it is to choose to meet a MILF Escort.

Mature women: more greedy and more dominant?

Many mature women say that when they sleep with a young man they are more greedy because he is still very manly and has a beautiful body. Besides the sexual appetite of mature women, young men adore the willingness of these women to open up to a variety of sexual practices, especially dominant practices related to BDSM. Young men enjoy being dominated, cuddled, protected,  mothered and often even taken care of by women who are often their mother’s age. These women have more experience, more confidence, they are more sexually available than 20/30 years old young women. By going to see a MILF Escort, these young men can satisfy their most primary sexual urges without being judged by anyone.

Not to mention that young girls today are in need of performance. A woman of 40 and over does not have the obsession with procreation, and it is known that men are always afraid of having to satisfy a woman’s reproductive urge. There is also the fact that new generations have learned about their sexuality on social media and the Internet, and that today’s young girls are in need to prove, that they are strong, ambitious and independent which may freak out young men. And as in general at the same age boys don’t have the same maturity as a girl, they might be better off  being with an older woman.

Therefore, mature women are not an unusual choice for a young man looking for a mistress. The life experience, the discretion and the complacency of a mature woman make things much easier and kind of drama-free. Indeed, as she is not looking for a romantic relationship but rather a sexual relationship, she has no reason to break up her lover’s couple. And even though she has feelings for him, she’s mature enough to understand that he won’t leave his young girlfriend/wife for her.

Cougar vs MILF: what’s the difference?

Gentlemen, if you like mature women, MILFs are the companions you need… Designated by the poetic and flattering term of “Mother I’d Like to Fuck”, MILFs are in general beautiful women. They don’t necessarily have unbridled sexuality or a particular type of man they like. When they are called MILFs it is nothing less than a compliment on their physical appearance and their attractive figure. To qualify as a MILFs, being a mom is not essential but it is a plus.

On the contrary, Cougars don’t necessarily have to be pretty. Women are referred to as Cougar when they systematically target men who are much younger than themselves. In general the term cougar refers to women who have many successive relationships with young men, but a woman married to a very young man can also be described as a Cougar.

The big difference between a cougar and a MILF is therefore in terms of sexuality. A Cougar will have decided to be a Cougar while a MIlf will only be so in the eyes of men. However, a woman can be both a MILF and a Cougar…

Michelle, Diana, Ketty and Julie are our MILFs at TVR. Are they Cougars too? Ask them ! 😉

Janet for TheVelvetRooms 

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10 things you do in bed that women don’t like! by d_velvet_rooms

Hello guys!

Being a Gentleman applies also in the bedroom… 😉

Here is another article to help you better understand women, especially when we are talking about sex.

Here are what a few things most of you men do in bed which turn off women…


1. Playing too hard/long with her nipples  

Some guys will play too hard or too long on women’s nipples. What they do not know is that it is uncomfortable and sometimes painful. Women nipples are very sensitive, with varying degrees of sensitivity throughout the month, so please Gentlemen, play accordingly. Gentle licking and sucking can be really great, so long as it doesn’t feel like you’re trying to milk us. In any case, if a girl likes it harder, she will let you know.

2. Appropriating her orgasm 

How can you ask a woman such a thing : „Come for me!“ ? It’s her orgasm, not yours. Please, respect that. Further, not all women can orgasm through penetration alone, and your unit isn’t going to change her physiology.

3. No joke, please!

Some guys are trying to be funny during the intercourse and do not understand that it may be very clumsy… Not the time for jokes!
Being funny can be a great way to build intimacy and foster a connection that will make sex better. But it does not always work… Some women will not like your jokes. Never tell a joke that will make her feel any less desirable, or like you’re not at least taking the sex she’s allowing you to have with her seriously.

4. Refusing to use condoms 

If a woman insists that you wear a condom, the rudest, most inconsiderate thing you can do is try and talk her out of it. It doesn’t matter if you “just got tested,” or if she’s on the pill. Women face way higher stakes in the bedroom. It is a medical fact that we are more physiologically susceptible to STDs than men, not to mention the risk of pregnancy. Sure, sex feels better without a condom, but life feels better without herpes…

5. Claiming you are „The King of Sex“

Too many men think that they are super good in bed. They talk a lot before sleeping with a woman… and then, they do not deliver. Guys : the worst thing you can do is over-promise and under-deliver ! 😉
Empty promises are an alarming trend in human male behavior. Women have adapted to this evolution by lowering their expectations. No girl is expecting the best sex of her life the first time she sleeps with you. In fact, staying humble makes any sexual missteps you commit in the act far more forgivable. Girls know you will lie to her about something far more important somewhere down the road, so no need to start with how good you are in bed.

6. Don’t go too deep!

Why men think that girls like it deep? We hate it when guys go too deep. It doesn’t feel good and it is even hurts sometimes! Seriously, guys : Stop punching in our vaginas. It’s not impressive, and for some, it’s actually painful. Just how deep is a personal preference. Give her all of you, but ease up if you get the feeling it’s too much for her. Not sure? Just ask.

7. Don’t skip the foreplay 

She is not asking for an hour-long, candles and hot oil massage . It takes more for women to get aroused than just wanting you, regardless of their age. Men, remember this : foreplay makes sex much easier and simply skipping it is likely to make a woman feel more objectified than wanted. Note that women hate Quickies. This kind of behavior/service looks amateur at best and selfish at worst.

8. Stop seeking validation 

„Do you like my big cock? „ Why do you keep asking this questions guys? Don’t be delusional about your size. The honest truth is that most of the time, bigger isn’t always better, but a big ego is the worst! When you ask this question to a girl, it makes you look like a very insecured man. No need to use magnum condoms, when you don’t need to. I am a C cup. How ridiculous would I look in a E bra?

9. Conducting an interrogation while having sex

„What about this position?“ Is that OK like that?“ For great sex, communication is absolutely a must, that’s true but rather before starting, not while being in action. And if you really have to ask, then make sure any questions are purposed and specific. “Are you OK with Anal Sex?” is definitely a question worth asking. However, checking in with her every time you change positions is just tiresome. Constantly asking her for validation is so unattractive and under-confident…

10. Don’t treat her like your maid 

Guys, don’t throw her a towel, so that she can wipe YOUR sperm off her back! If a woman lets you finish anywhere else than in a condom, show some gratitude and at least wet the towel a little with some warm water before politely handing it to her. Or go a step further and give her a hand, especially if it’s in a spot she may have trouble reaching. A bit of chivalry Gentlemen! 🙂

Janet for TheVelvetRooms

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Alpha, Beta, Lambda or Omega: What type of seducer are you? by d_velvet_rooms

In what sexual hierarchy do you place yourself in relation to women? Are you an Alpha, Beta, Lambda or Omega man?

These terms do not define the intrinsic worth of a man, nor do they constitute a judgment on his personality or his being. They only refer to how women perceive you. This does not mean that you are superior to another man because you are placed higher on the ladder of seduction. Especially since this place owes a lot to chance and genetics, although personal merit plays a big role in it too. I propose a classification of these four types of men with my personal comments to help you understand those terms a bit better.


The two main categories

Category 1: The Alpha and Beta are the men who, in the game of seduction, have their chances with most women.

Category 2: The Lambda and the Omega are the men who, in the game of seduction, rarely have their chances and will almost always be excluded.


The Alpha male

He is the man at the top of the sexual hierarchy: attractive, virile, he gives a feeling of self-confidence, authority and domination. He usually masters the codes of seduction and male-female relationships, whether consciously or instinctively. He is able to quickly seduce a woman, basing his game of seduction on appearances, charisma, macho charm, money, physical power … He is the kind of man young girls fantasize about and the one that more mature women dream of having as a lover. It is this category of men who assume the most prominent traditional manly traits and women respect him as a man. About 10% of men are alpha.


The Beta male

This man is generally more erased than the Alpha, less attractive at first but often wiser and more solid in many respects. Where the Alpha makes a good lover, the beta makes a good friend: he is attentive, patient, often in love with the woman before she even notices it. He’s the one who has a shoulder she can cry on when the Alpha she was sleeping with doesn’t want her anymore. He is also the one who will accept to raise the child of the Alpha without complaining. Although less successful than Alpha, Beta can succeed in having a good sentimental and sexual life, because of the emotional connections he knows how to establish with certain women. However, he is often just a fallback, a plan B for the girl who dreamed of being with an Alpha man and suddenly found herself too old or not pretty / interesting enough to attract them. Although his position is more advantageous than that of Lambda and Omega, the Beta male is often an eternal frustrated and his position is one of the least comfortable. About 50% of men are Beta.


The Lambda male

The Lambda is an average male who is just a nobody: in fact, on the sentimental and sexual radar of women, he doesn’t even exist. He’s that kind of gray, shy, low-key man that has been around in the office for years but who is so insignificant that no one ever remembers his name. Over time, however, and provided he manages to build a comfortable financial position, he can hope to become an acceptable Beta for a fairly desperate third-hand woman. About 30% of men are Lambda.


The Omega male

He’s at the bottom of the hierarchy. He is the one who, suffering from severe physical or social handicaps, has difficulty accessing women. He usually has no money. He is not physically attractive. Not particularly intelligent. He can be morbidly obese, disfigured, homeless … There are many examples and causes of his situation. About 10% of men are Omega.


Statutes that can change

The status of Alpha, Beta, Lambda or Omega is neither fixed nor permanent: in reality, nobody is one or the other forever. Every man, on the other hand, has a certain number of Alpha traits, Beta traits, Lambda traits and Omega traits which, depending on the situation, are useful or not, are highlighted or on the contrary stifled. Physical beauty, for example, is not perceived in the same way in all cultures. Interpersonal skills and good listening skills (Beta trait) can become ineffective with an interlocutor who uses a language you have poor command of. An Apollo physique, even recognized as such, will be worth nothing for a woman who does not like men of your ethnic group …

But remember that it is us, women who create these categories, and they only exist in our gaze. The precise status of a man can therefore vary depending on the woman he is trying to seduce! 🙂


Janet for TheVelvetRooms

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Hey men… Don’t get married ! by d_velvet_rooms

For those who do read my blog, you may have long understand my position when it comes to marriage. And I know that this opinion coming from a woman is kind of unusual but well… i am not like most woman. Indeed, I have been in different types of relationships, I have experienced sex life in various forms and I have been evolving in the sex industrie for a while now which gives me a bright over view of what getting married does to men, to their status, to their ego and to their sex life.

I am not a man but I know men well and I understand them very well. And I know women as well as I am one of them and I have been dealing with women for years now…

This is my honest opinion about marriage that I would like to share with all men (especially those who are not married yet) on this planet: do not marry.

Why? Because the good majority (and I mean a high percentage) of marriages sucks.

You will end up going sexless for months or even for years… Imagine taking care of a woman, paying bills, taking her on trips, buying her gifts, doing all these kind of things and she will still be holding sex on you. And if she does give you sex, it is a bargaining thing…you have to provide some sort of benefits. This is what marriage is about for most men but no one is going to tell you the true. Who wants a sexless life with no attention and no affection ?

Most married men end-up being „providers“ and if they stop providing, she will have the whole family slowly turning against you (including the kids).

And what about your freedom? After a while being married, you will not even be able to go out whenever you want to and spend time with your friends because your „significant other“ (your wife) holds this time which belongs to you. What you also do not know is that the wife you’ve just married will change after a while and when she gets kids she will change even more…

Married men will never tell you this, they will put on a mask to pretend that everything is OK but it is not. Married men loose their freedom. They thought that marriage will be this magical esotherical thing but it is in most cases a very uncomfortable situation.

When the feelings between you and your wife melt, she starts gaining weigh and not paying attention to her body and look as much as she used to but you are still fit and in shape… but you can’t leave her because YOU will be the bad guy. She, on the contrary can leave you and divorce for any reason, at any time.

You will never leave. You have too much to loose: the house you bought, your ressources, your retirement founds are tied to this woman.

Marriage life is not what it used to be. If she divorces you, she is taking the house, the car, the kids, she is taking the dog and probably half of your salary as well. Why would you put yourself in such a fragile position?

Married men are living in fear of their wife. They are afraid because they know that she is able to leave at any time. That’s the contract they signed… I know, they did not know it would be like this…

She is getting lazier and lazier, refuses to please you but well, you are bound to that contract. You are „chained“ to this situation, there is no way you can win and she knows that. This is why she does not make any efforts to be sexy for you anymore.

I have been the mistress of men who had zero support from their wife. One of them wanted to be an entrepreneur and start his own business and guess what? Instead of encouraging him, helping him moraly, being by his side and giving him support in this new project, she saw it as a risk of seeing her „nest“ being jeopardized. So she had to down-play his aspirations, she had to discourage him.

None of your male friends will ever tell you this because men keep their mouth shut. They don’t express their feelings so easily but when you get around married men a lot and ask them how is their marriage, you know what they eventually tell you 9 times out of 10 ? Do not do it.

Are all marriage like this? No. But the VAST majority are like this. No kidding !

Now ask yourself this Gentlemen, do you love your freedom? Ask yourself, is it worth it?

Married men are scared to tell you this because they are afraid to tell you that they made a mistake.  Afraid to tell you that they are slowly loosing their identity, that they do not know who they really are anymore. All they do and know is to “provide”.

Why not choosing to remain a free single man who has options and can use them whenever he wants to, instead of falling into the trap of getting married and loosing all the benefits of your sexlife, your freedom and your disposal income?

Think twice Gentlemen.

Janet for TheVelvetRooms


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The type of men 99% of women are attracted to by d_velvet_rooms

On a scale of 0 to 10, on which level do you find yourself, my dear Gentlemen?

In general, men tend to find themselves more attractive than they really are in the eyes of women, and women, on the contrary tend to be hard on themselves and see themselves generally less attractive as they are in the eyes of men.

But, do you know what ? Women are very attracted by one type of men.

In general a woman will be seduced and charmed by a man other women find attractive, a man who is being desired and wanted by other women.

This is why some women will be in an affair with men who are married or in a long-term relationship because those men are on the wish-list of other women. Those men have been preselected by other women.

This is why a woman tend to forgive faster a man who cheated on her but that man will have a hard time forgiving a woman who cheated on him. If you are a very attractive and confident man, women will go for you without big efforts from your part. A woman will chase you, even if she knows that she is not the only one… She will wait for her turn to be upgraded to the main female.

When a woman you are out with sees other people coming up and talking to you that you know, or a random girl comes up to talk to you, it demonstrates her without fail that you bring value to the „table“. She will make things easier as soon as she recognizes this.

The ego plays a big role in all this. It is also about validation with females. That’s why we go after men other women want. So we can be the “chosen” one and show other women that particular man values us over them to make our ego feels bigger.

Gentlemen, you have to realized one thing : when it comes to relationships and sex, women are the choosers, and as the choosers they preselect the men they want based on the man’s look, race and financial situation.

Most women will chase after a man who’s already taken, but won’t pay the men who’s not in a relationship any attention forgetting that a womanizer will always have more options which will add value to him and only to him…


Janet for TheVelvetRooms




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