08 / 02 / 2018
5 Minute Read

A man’s perspective.

On February, 7th,  2018 Janet wrote an interesting article: Your Wife/Girlfriend stopped giving you blowjobs? 

In this article, I will give you a man's perspective on the topic, talking about sex in general, not just blowjobs.

So you’ve been together for a while and there is no spark in the bedroom anymore ? Never mind blowjobs, there is almost no sex at all. And in most cases, it’s because your woman doesn’t want any or is using it as leverage to control you.  As a rule men have a higher sex drive than women, but that big of a gap is a sign that you shouldn’t ignore.

 

SHE NEVER LIKED IT

Men and women are different...but when you get down to it, the only things that, as a (straight) man, your guy friends can’t provide you with are sex and kids. So if one or both are off the table why be with a woman ? Might as well just have guy friends and pay an escort for sex when in need. Men choose women for their beauty, and let’s face it, for how good they are in the sack, before almost anything else. So if she doesn’t like sex the way you do (or almost), you shouldn’t be with her. And if she only gave you sex to keep you around in the beginning or if she only did certain sex acts like blowjobs at first and then shied away from those sex acts later on, she was misrepresenting herself to you. AKA lying...you shouldn’t have liars in your life.

 

YOU’VE STOPPED GOING DOWN ON HER

What ? Don’t be a selfish lover. Only bad hygiene should stop you from going down on her. In which case, why are you with someone who’s never seen the inside of a shower !!!

 

SHE HAS RESSENTMENT TOWARDS YOU

This is a no-brainer, do your share !!! However, statistically, men work much longer hours for most of their lives. If this is the case, the guy might deserve to do less housework. Stressed out ? Since when has sex not been a great stress reliever, for the BOTH OF YOU !!! And ladies, here’s a tip: a man will NEVER, after you first move in together, do more housework to keep you around. No misrepresentation here...You may change him a bit, but not much. What you see is what you get. Men tend to be less tidy then women, so they let certain things go that a woman wouldn’t, like laundry, dirty dishes, etc, so if the guy is a lot different from you (just like for the libido gap mentioned above), that guy shouldn’t be in your life. The resentment you’ll feel in those cases will be of your own making; most of it at least, because you lied to yourself about him.

 

SHE IS NOT IN LOVE ANYMORE

Guys, like escorts, can be very intimate with women without having feelings for them. Even if it’s true that in a relationship, the more intimate you get with your partner, the deeper and stronger the love, this is not really as big a deal for guys. Occasional impersonal sex with a woman is not great but it beats masturbation. Ladies, you have to understand something: men get rejected 9 out of 10 times when they approach women, they don’t need more rejection while in a relationship. Every time a guy has to masturbate because he’s not getting sex, he feels rejected. It’s the fastest way, outside of cheating, to lose a man. Most couples look for 3 things in their relationship: affection, sex, and communication. Women can’t live without communication, men can’t live without sex. If he does go without sex, expect to be talking to a wall and forget affection. If you hijack his sex life, he’ll take affection and communication hostage. Learn to trade.

 

IT IS TAKING YOU TOO LONG TO EJACULATE

This one makes me laugh. Most sex-starved men usually blow their load super fast !!! In fact, women usually hate that and hold back on sex even more because their man doesn’t last long enough to get them off. As far as blowjobs go, come on, it’s not that much work, and there’s no jaw pain, get serious !!! I’ve never given one, but I’ve spent many hot summer days sucking on one Popsicle after another for hours. No jaw pain, no effort. Now let’s talk about cunnilingus: having your neck cranked up in an awkward position, between a pair of legs isn’t exactly comfortable. And what about the fact that most women need something like 20 minutes (or more) to get off !!! And most of them, when they climax lock their legs up around your head and you can’t breathe !!! You’re there hoping she doesn’t squirt !!! Oh, and by the way, if you can’t make a guy cum in less than 10 minutes, your blowjobs suck...or maybe they don’t suck enough...LOL.

MAKE HER FEEL SEXY!

That’s pretty self evident. However, the list of things needed to make a woman happy is a mile long. Honestly, it’s exhausting. Even worse, the list is subject to change without notice. The list to keep a guy happy: fuck him, and suck him, often. By the way, men need to feel appreciated too. A non-existent sex life is not a good way to make a man feel good about himself. Women should also work hard to deserve their man. Men are far more often taken for granted. This is almost always a one-way street. I don’t remember seeing any women lined up at the florist on Valentine’s Day....do you ? Women expect to be taken out, get flowers and gifts, etc. Men expect a sex life.

 

SHOW HER THAT YOU LOVE IT

If the guy just lays there as if in a coma, you’re doing it wrong...or he just got a massive heart attack...

 

J.R. for TheVelvetRooms 

 

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