15 / 09 / 2021
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Can a man really love an Escort?

My dear W.,

Thank you for your message.
I think I wrote an article on the subject two years ago ...

As an Escort, we often feel alone, isolated, on the margins of society and it can be more difficult to create friendships or to meet love because indeed, few understand / accept our profession.
So as soon as someone shows more attention towards us, we tend to lower our guard as we would like to believe in love, believing that someone could still love us for who we are, despite of the industry we are in.

The reality is often very different ... It is extremely rare to meet a man who will accept your profession as an Escort. And if he first met you as a client, it will be even harder for him to picture himself in a serious relationship with you and accepting your job. Many will ask you to stop your activity if you want a relationship with them. A blackmail to which many girls succumb because they believe hard as iron in a possible love.

But often she is very disappointed ... She realizes that since she no longer works, this man is less generous with her than when she was an Escort-Girl. And when he remains generous, he often has a degrading attitude towards her or continues to see Escorts while you, in fact, you have stopped everything for him. You have become financially dependent whereas before that was not the case, you are less free and in addition, you do not necessarily have the love you dreamed of. In the end, you are the big loser in this story. And then in these moments you also wonder if while being an Escort, you can still love a man and trust him ...

Men are inherently possessive human beings who do not like to share or feel inferior to a woman or to another man.
It is very, very rare to meet a man who will accept that you continue to be an Escort while having a serious relationship with him. These men who accept you for who you are, are as rare as a needle in a haystack.

Some will make you believe that they love you and blind you with sweet words, you will let yourself be carried away by your emotions and the big winner of this story will be him. He will have managed to spend time with you, for free because yes, when an Escort is in love, of course, her time is no longer billed and many men know very well how to take advantage of it ... Finally, the stigma attached to this job means that out of pride and honor, the vast majority of men cannot imagine being officially in a romantic relationship with an Escort: What will his family say? His friends? The society?

But exceptions exist and I have met some of them.

This rare man, whom you may meet, will not ask you to stop working for him, but he will expect sincerity and transparency from you. He will let you make your decisions without ever forcing anything on you. He will help you financially, without you even asking him. He will behave like a man in love and show you attention, affection, without necessarily expecting in return that you give him sex (something you will do anyway). He will take care of your well-being, your personal development (education, personal projects ...) and will want the best for you. He'll want to hear from you every day, even if it's just for two minutes. He will always speak to you with respect and even in moments of arguments, he will never insult you by calling you ***** or by making you feel guilty for having been an Escort.

This man, you should not run after him but let him come to you. Some Escorts will have the chance to meet him, others will never have that apportunity.

What if he doesn't come to you? So be it. If you have to change who you are to be loved, then you will never be able to find happiness with that person.

I hope my dear W., to have been able to answer your question.

Sincerely Yours,

Janet

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