Can a man truly love an escort?

Can a man truly love an escort? A few years ago, I was asked this question by a customer via email. Discover below a summary of my long answer to him, which may seem improbable to some, but so important to others.

As an independent Escort, one often craves for love and recognition as one tends to feel alone, isolated, on the margins of society, and it can be more difficult to build friendships or to find love because indeed, very few understand / accept and respect this profession.

Therefore, as soon as someone shows more attention than usual towards an independent Sex Worker, she might tend to lower her guard as she would like to believe in love, believing that someone could still love her for who she is while not being judgmental about the job she chose to do.

But when it comes to love, the reality is often very different ... It is extremely rare to meet a man who will accept your profession as an escort. And if he first met you as a client, it will be even harder for him to picture himself in a serious relationship with you and accepting your job. Many will ask you to stop your activity if you want a relationship with them. A blackmail to which many girls succumb because they believe hard as iron in a possible love.

But often she ends up being disappointed over the years... She realizes that since she no longer works, this man is less generous with her than when she used to be an escort. And when he remains generous, he often has a degrading attitude towards her or continues to see escorts while she, in fact, has stopped being active in this industry, for love for him. Meanwhile she has also become financially dependent on him (even if she found a full or part-time conventional job) whereas before that was not the case. She is now not as flexible and free as before and in addition, she does not necessarily have the love she dreamed of. In the end, she is the big loser in this story. And then in these moments she also wonders if while being an escort, she can still love a man and trust him...

Most men are inherently possessive human beings who usually do not like to share or feel inferior to a woman or to another man. It is very, very rare to meet a man who will accept that his partner continues to be an escort while having a serious relationship with him. These men who accept them for who they are, are as rare as a needle in a haystack.

Some will make them believe that they are in love and blind them with sweet words. Naïve, they will let themselves being carried away by their emotions and the big winner of this story will be them. They will have managed to spend time with that girl, for free because yes, when an escort is in love, of course, her time is no longer billed, and many men know very well how to take advantage of it ... Finally, the stigma attached to this job means that out of pride and honor, the vast majority of men cannot imagine being officially in a romantic relationship with an Escort: What will his family say? His friends? The society?

However, exceptions exist, and I have personally met some of them.

So, can a man truly love an escort? The response is yes. This precious man, whom you might meet on day, will not ask you to stop working as an escort for him, but he will expect sincerity and transparency from you. He will let you make your decisions without ever forcing anything on you. He will help you financially, without you even asking for it. He will behave like a man in love and show you attention, affection, without necessarily expecting in return that you give him sex (something you will do anyway). He will take care of your well-being, your personal development (education, personal projects ...) and will want the best for you. He'll want to hear from you every day, even if it's just for two minutes. He will always speak to you with respect and even in moments of arguments, he will never insult you by calling you ***** or by making you feel guilty for having been a Sex Worker.

This man, you should not run after him but let him come to you. Some escorts will have the chance to meet him, others will never have that opportunity.

What if that love doesn't come to you? So be it. If you have to change who you are to be loved, then you will never be able to find happiness with that person.


Janet – The Velvet Rooms

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