The Bad Boy – Here is why you should avoid this type of clients

All escorts succumbed (at least once) to the sulfurous charm of a Bad Boy. Perhaps you are one of those who collect them or have collected them! We know what attracts us to them, but we also quickly understand what a Bad Boy attracts to our lives: worry, insecurity, jealousy, emotional frustration and inability to progress. And then comes maturity, and with it the awareness of the only type of client we need: a man who is respectful and friendly!

What is a Bad Boy?

A Bad Boy represents a cultural archetype of a man who embodies rebellion, boldness, and emotional unavailability—qualities that many women find highly attractive, especially when it's a short-term relationship dominated by passion.

He typically radiates confidence, dominance – such as Alpha men -, and unpredictability, often breaking rules and defying societal norms with a blend of charm and danger. While he isn’t necessarily cruel or abusive (though that can be an extreme case), he tends to resist authority, commitment, and vulnerability. His appeal lies in the emotional excitement he generates: he’s thrilling, difficult to understand, and often indifferent to seeking approval, which adds to his mysterious and desirable persona.

Many women are captivated by bad boys due to the intensity and chemistry they offer, but this attraction frequently diminishes when emotional depth, stability, or trust become more important.

We all had a crush on the charming Bad Boy customer

Who has not melted for the arrogant virility of a Bad Boy? Who has not been bewitched by his dangerous charm? First you imagine that he will be Bad with everyone, and gentle and respectful with you, the escort he pays and whom he has chosen to spend time with. Then, you quickly realize that he is hard on you too, but strangely, it doesn’t displease you: being with him has a scent of danger that makes you feel alive, and the dizziness of his multiple appointments canceled, the intensity of your get-together and the mystery surrounding his attitude maintain your attraction for him. Nevertheless, that Bad Boy remains your favorite client.

In comparison to a Bad Boy, you tell yourself that a nice customer seems boring to you… and yet everything would be much more simple and reassuring with a nice and respectful man!

Being an escort will teach you what's really precious in a client

The Bad Boy client is not the kind of man you’d usually like but curiously, you have a hard time getting rid of him and he knows how to take advantage of this situation: his encounters with you go far beyond the time for which he paid (if he pays at all), he asks for services that you usually wouldn't do with other clients, he wants to meet you outside of your hours of availability without any gratification, you cancel paid confirmed appointments to spend time with him for free while knowing you are wasting your time ... But you don’t say a word: too naive and bewitched by his charm and his addictive smile... with perhaps the hidden hope that one day he will become your boyfriend.

Additionally, if you are young and influenceable, falling in love with a Bad Boy and losing yourself in his commandments could potentially lead you into the trap of a Loverboy...

His sex appeal makes you even more addicted to him. These moments with the Bad Boy seem to stir up the flame… Why? Because they remind you every minute that you can lose him as a customer. And even if you don't appreciate his way of acting towards you, you have the feeling of being attracted to him because this insecurity artificially inflates your desire to be with him. But keeping him as a client is an unconscious challenge.

In his company, you have more difficult moments than pleasurable ones. No matter what, you try to endure them by hanging on to the rare, enjoyable moments because physically, he attracts you a lot. You are not the only one for him and you know that too, but you can't help yourself.  

This bitter-sweet situation is very unhealthy, especially when it occurs between an escort and her client. These ups and downs, which create more challenging moments than easy ones have you still accepting him as a client.

This is the definition of a toxic customer: that of a Bad Boy who wastes your time, your money and lowers your self-esteem. If you don't feel comfortable with a client, you have the right to stop seeing him. The fact that he pays to be in your presence is not a reason to accept everything from him. During an appointment with a client, it is you who should "lead the dance", not the other way around.

Your experiences as an escort will make you appreciate respectful clients

Maturity and experience as an escort make you understand little by little the type of clients you deserve to have.  The mysterious Bad Boy attraction is over, and you start appreciating the company of nice and respectful gentlemen. These customers are generally more mature, more confident and know how to show you respect.

Over time, one also realizes that the qualities that really matter in escorts clients are: empathy, sincerity, patience, understanding ... In short, that which encompasses all these qualities mentioned above is kindness.

Nice can also be attractive!

Young escorts often have the impression that a Bad Boy is a sexy boy, and that good men are… nice but much less attractive. This quality may touch and move them, but it does not attract them!

Maturing as an escort is not only realizing how rare and precious kindness is in a client, but also how attractive it can be, especially coming from escorts clients. If this has never happened to you before, you will one day know how sexy a client’s kindness and loyalty can be. Gradually, you will appreciate this type of client, and you will even be very grateful to have them coming back to you or booking you for longer appointments!

In the sex industry, tyrants are numerous and poisonous, kings are rare and wanted. As an independent escort, you deserve nothing less but valuable customers (who will speak nicely to you, treat you well and even buy you gifts!). Stay away from the capricious Bad Boy (who generally never turns to be a regular client but will instead prevent you from being available for your genuine clients): as an escort, he has nothing to offer you.

Janet – The Velvet Rooms

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