20 / 07 / 2018
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A-Level the first time: some basic rules for an unforgettable experience! 

Anal eroticism is surrounded by a powerful taboo. Yet millions of heterosexual, gay and bisexual men and women have already experienced sodomy. The anatomy of the anus, richly endowed with nerve endings and interconnections with the main pelvic muscles, is the closest erogenous neighbor of the genital organs during orgasm.

35 years ago now, the American Kinsey study revealed that the anal region had erotic significance for about half the American population and the same is true for many other countries.

In a survey of 100,000 Playboy readers, 47% of men and 61% of women admitted to having tried and enjoyed sodomy. Yet anal taboo inhibits most girls to talk about and learn the sexual use of the anus. Below, are a few points that most men and women still do not know about anal sex.

1. A-Level is the least practiced form of anal sex.

There are several ways to enjoy the anus erotically. The most common techniques include touching, anal opening while masturbating or stimulating your partner's anus during sexual intercourse or oral sex.

Some people enjoy the sensation of a finger - their own or a lover - inserted into their anal orifice and gently turned. Others may prefer the insertion of a dildo or vibrator beyond the anal opening and a short anal channel into the larger rectum.

Many men, including heterosexual men, prefer this form of penetration.

Making oral-anal sex is popularly known as anilingus. The idea disgusts some people, others love it!

2. Anal stimulation, including during sexual intercourse, is not painful if done correctly.

The belief that anal stimulation, especially during anal penetration, will hurt is a persistent and dangerous myth. Just as pain anywhere in the body indicates that something is wrong, it also holds true for the anal area. With its high concentration of nerve endings, the anus can produce extreme agony when abused.

However, it can be a source of great pleasure for both men and women.

When a finger, sex-toy or penis is introduced into the anus, the anal muscles will produce spasms, as if it was fighting against an invasion. Pain will appear if the partners do not wait for the anal muscles to relax.

With gentleness and sufficient practice, the pain disappears. Maximum anal pleasure is gained when both partners are relaxed and confident with each other.

Perhaps if your partner seems stressed at the thought of experiencing her first sodomy, you should be patient and transform this "no" into a “yes” when she is ready to go ahead with you and give you this unforgettable gift. It is indeed a rare exception for a girl to ask to be sodomized the first time you make love.

You should therefore prepare your partner with a subtle combination of physical relaxation techniques, such as a sensual massage with essential oils of the back, buttocks, and upper thighs; then quietly start by introducing a finger to make her desire rise before penetrating.

Sometimes the anal muscles will relax. Stimulation should only increase in proportion to the degree of receptivity.

3. Anal sex can be enjoyed by a woman even if she has been consistently uncomfortable in the past due to painful experiences with former partners.

A strong desire alone does not necessarily guarantee anal pleasure. If your partner has a lack of interest or desire for anal sex, chronic anal tension is likely the most common cause of anal discomfort during sex.

Hemorrhoids and constipation are usually a sign of this condition. This tension can be relieved by touching the anus and exploring this part of her female anatomy to become more familiar and comfortable with it. An ideal time to explore the anal opening is while taking a shower or a bath.

Similarly, deep breathing also affects the anal muscles.

Relaxation and letting go is also another great way to learn to relax. All women who love masturbation should experiment with some form of anal stimulation.

Many women with an a priori unfounded fear about their first sodomy will change their attitude when they allow their partner to gently massage their anus without any anal sex being attempted in the first moments of intimacy. In this way, she can focus only on the pleasure that her erogenous zone is able to generate.

4. Anal stimulation provides many different types of pleasure.

The highest concentration of nerve endings is around the anal opening itself.

A finger can touch them. When an object or penis is inserted beyond the anal opening into the rectum, other pleasures are involved in the anal act itself.

In return, the outer part of the rectum, like the vagina, has several nerve endings. The inner part essentially responds to pressure.

Some girls experience feelings of fullness and strong pleasure once they understand and feel that their first sodomy is not going to involve hazardous movements on the part of their partner.

Anal pleasure can be psychological but also physical. The anal taboo adds the excitement of the forbidden. The women most opposed to the practice of sodomy (it's dirty!) rather see it as a source of sordid excitement.

Others consider the anus as a secret and special place to share with a partner as an act of openness and self-giving.

Anyway, an anal shower before having sex can help you with hygiene and relaxation.

5. Anal stimulation and orgasm

A minority of men and women respond to anal sex without direct genital stimulation. Women do it by additionally contracting the pelvic muscles; and a small minority feels pure excitement through the anal route. When men experience orgasm through anal stimulation, they tend to focus on the prostate.

Some of them react positively to indirect stimulation of the penile bulb.

Multiple orgasms by anal stimulation are more likely to occur when participants become completely absorbed in their sensations and fantasies.

Because it’s unlikely to be the end result, one should not try to procure an orgasm at all costs during sodomy, this would only increase stress and put pressure on your girlfriend, thus disrupting the pleasure; you must remain Zen-like and tell yourself that this is only the first anal experience and that there will be others more satisfying for sure in the future.

Remember that most girls need direct genital stimulation in order to have successful anal pleasure.

6. A-Level is not necessarily an act of domination and submission

For a man, having toned and powerful forearms is a definite advantage in seduction. On the other hand, when it comes to inserting a finger into his partner's anus, it's more a question of tact and know-how; indeed, the more assured and controlled the pressure you apply is, the more likely you are to make her cum !

Janet for TheVelvetRooms 

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