Candaulism : the other name for Peeping Tom

What is candaulism?

Candaulism is the sophisticated name to describe a Peeping Tom. Candaulism is a sexual practice related to the excitement of seeing your partner exposed to the eyes of other men, or even having sex with another person. Peeping Tom are excited in:

- Revealing an explicit picture or pictures of his partner to others;

- Watching his partner have sex with another man (or more)

In fact, this kink, which combines voyeurism and exhibitionism, is similar to swinging. However, we are not talking about a threesome here. In general, the Peeping Tom is not directly involved in the sexual act that takes place in front of his eyes. It only gives him personal satisfaction.


The motivations of the Peeping Tom

There are several motivations behind this fantasy. The Peeping Tom chooses to offer his partner to a third person for various reasons:

- He is excited to see his partner having sex with another man.

- He wants to see other bodies next to his partner, especially after a few years of life as a couple.

- He wants to better observe his partner's enjoyment.

- He is proud to "lend" his spouse

- He fulfills a homosexual fantasy by seeing another naked man in an erect state

- He gets pleasure in dominating/controlling the situation (and its protagonists)


The Peeping Tom : In love and accomplice?

Do not think that a man doesn't love his wife while enjoying candaulism and being a peeping Tom!  On the contrary, it is usually men in love who, excited to see the reaction of others in front of their partner, turn to this practice.

Often, they will show pictures of their spouse before they start the actual act.

The Peeping Tom plays a major role in this practice, even if he is actually only an interested observer because:

- He participates in the choice of the person who will have sex with his wife/girlfriend

- He often develops the scenario

- He establishes contacts with the chosen individual

- He can interrupt the relationship at any time

- He derives great sexual satisfaction from it, in addition to fulfilling his voyeuristic desires.


The steps of the Peeping Tom

The practice of being a Peeping Tom cannot be improvised. The couple should:

- Have excellent communication skills;

- Feel sexual excitement at this opportunity;

- Ensure that together they find the right person and the right place;

- Determine the conditions of this adventure before even taking action;

- Determine whether the experiment will be photographed or filmed;

- Protect themselves against sexually transmitted infections;

- Get some feedback on the experience, evaluate its discomforts and the pleasure felt.
 

The risks involved in being a Peeping Tom

Of course, like any sexual practice that involves other partners, candaulism carries some risks for all participants.

The couple could experience major conflicts once the fantasy is fullfeed, especially if the man is possessive :

- A break-up can occur if the woman and the “guest” fall in love.

- The couple's sexual life can be transformed.

- Some resentment may develop if the woman accepts caresses or positions she previously refused (A-level, for example).

- Jealousy can undermine the relationship after the act.

- The woman may be uncomfortable with her partner if she enjoyed it more with the “guest”.

- She could be embarrassed in front of a stranger's nudity.

- The “one night lovers” may decide to meet again, in secret.


This fetish practice can have perverse effects. Indeed, if the woman is unsatisfied with her relationship and wishes to take a lover, her partner will open the doors of adultery wide to her, and with her "consent".

Conclusion

Nevertheless, many followers report a significant improvement in their sex life, within the couple itself, as a result of the practice of candaulism.

So, are you into a Peeping Tom ? ;-)
 

Janet for The Velvet Rooms 

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