10 / 04 / 2019
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Candaulism : taking pleasure in watching your partner having sex with another man...

Candaulism has been gaining popularity lately. Is it part of your fantasy?

 

What is candaulism?

Candaulism is a sexual practice related to the excitement of seeing your partner exposed to the eyes of other men, or even having sex with another person. Men are excited in:

- revealing an explicit picture or pictures of his partner to others;

- watching his partner have sex with another man (or more)

In fact, this practice, which combines voyeurism and exhibitionism, is similar to swinging. However, we are not talking about an exchange of partners here.

In general, the man not directly involved in the sexual act that takes place in front of their eyes. It only gives him personal satisfaction.

 

The motivations

There are several motivations behind this fantasy. The man chooses to offer his partner to a third person for various reasons:

- He's excited to see his partner having sex with another man.

- He wants to see other bodies next to his partner, especially after a few years of life as a couple.

- He wants to better observe his partner's enjoyment.

- He is proud to "lend" his spouse

- He fulfills a homosexual fantasy by seeing another naked man in an erect state

- He gets pleasure in dominating/controlling the situation (and its protagonists)

 

In love and accomplice?

Don't think that a man doesn't love his wife while enjoying candaulism!  On the contrary, it is usually men in love who, excited to see the reaction of others in front of their partner, turn to this practice.

Often, they will show pictures of their spouse before they start the actual act.

The man plays a major role in this practice, even if he is actually only an interested observer:

- He participates in the choice of the person.

- He often develops the scenario.

- He establishes contacts with the chosen individual

- He can interrupt the relationship at any time.

- He derives great sexual satisfaction from it, in addition to fulfilling his voyeuristic desires.

 

The steps

The practice of candaulism cannot be improvised. The couple should:

- have excellent communication skills;

- feel sexual excitement at this opportunity;

- ensure that together they find the right person and the right place;

- determine the conditions of this adventure before even taking action;

- determine whether the experiment will be photographed or filmed;

- protect themselves against sexually transmitted infections;

- Get some feedback on the experience, evaluate its discomforts and the pleasure felt.

 

The risks

Of course, like any sexual practice that involves other partners, candaulism carries some risks for all participants.

The couple could experience major conflicts once the fantasy is realized, especially if the man is possessive :

- A break-up can occur if the woman and the “guest” fall in love.

- The couple's sexual life can be transformed.

- Some resentment may develop if the woman accepts caresses or positions she previously refused (A-level, for example).

- Jealousy can undermine the relationship after the act.

- The woman may be uncomfortable with her partner if she enjoyed it more with the “guest”.

- She could be embarrassed in front of a stranger's nudity.

- The “one night lovers” may decide to meet again, in secret.

 

This practice can have perverse effects. Indeed, if the woman is unsatisfied with her relationship and wishes to take a lover, her partner will open the doors of adultery wide to her, and with her "consent".

Nevertheless, many followers report a significant improvement in their sex life, within the couple itself, as a result of this practice.

So, are you into candaulism ? ;-)

 

Janet for TheVelvetRooms 

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