03 / 02 / 2018
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Big dick versus small cock: Why is the size so irrelevant?

 

For some reasons, most men pay way too much attention on the size of their penis. Those who have a big dick tend to carry a sense of proud and think they do rock in bed with any woman, whereas those having a small cock are extremely insecure, because they think that for women, the big dick is a sign of virility and capability in bed.

Men with small cock tend to see themselves as under-performing in bed with women and others see their big dick as a trophy that get them to think they do over-perform when it comes to relationship with women in general.

But bad-mouths will also say that men with a big dick usually have a sparrow's brain and those with a small cock are the smart guys!

In this article, I am sharing my point of view around that topic while hoping that after this reading, men will feel much more comfortable with how mother nature created them.

 

Big dick or small cock: a cross-class topic

As a former independent Escort, I have had the opportunity to spend wonderful moments with true gentlemen! Some had a big dick, other had a small cock but the quality of time they made me spent was completely unrelated to the size of their genitals. Both categories made me feel really good. So, to me, the size never played a role.

I must say that something often surprised me: no matter the social class those men were from or the professional status they had reached over the years, their confidence completely dropped down, rightly or wrongly, when their penis size was for them, not big enough. A few of my clients with a so-called small cock would confess to me not being able to have sex properly or pleasing neither themselves nor the women they slept with.

To all these men who think that a big dick is the ultimate proof of masculinity, I want to say: Stop! You are wrong guys. We ladies (and escort ladies too), think differently. Whether it is a big dick or a small cock, penis size is a part of a whole package. Escort Girls for instance care about that whole package that made them favor certain clients over others...

 

Media and cultural influences

As the media, pornography and popular culture communicate an idealized and exaggerated image of how a penis should look in terms of size and appearance, a social pressure on men sets in. This can lead to anxiety and uncertainty for some men - like virgins, for example - who then make these unrealistic images a big dick, their frame of reference. 

What these men do not seem to understand is that sex is not only about penetration: fingering, oral sex, mutual masturbation and sex toys use are many ways to have fun without intercourse. Moreover, most women need and like clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm.

 

Small cock and big dick: continual comparisons between peers

Having been surrounded by boys and men my whole life, I know for a fact that men do compare themselves to their peers from a young age, developing feelings of deficiency if they do not approximate.  The link that some men make between their worth and their identity is then closely correlated with their physical attributes.

Please men, do not listen to those claiming that all women prefer a big dick over a small cock! The reality is that a big dick can actually hurt. At least, a small cock or an average size penis are not going to make us (women) feel like we are being stabbed from the inside out... :-( . I know, many men do wrongly think that a small cock will lead to discontentment or mockery from their partner.

But as a woman with a lot of experience, I can loudly claim that bigger does not mean better! It is more about mastering the techniques and the know-how. For men who have a small cock and who still think that performance is everything, I would say that one of the best sex positions to please your partner and make penetration deeper would certainly be: Doggy Style, Pile Driver or Side Ride (Sideways Cowgirl). For the rest, remember that women love foreplays and cuddles right after having had sex…

 

The miseducation surrounding big dick and small cock

As I mentioned earlier in this article, lack of proper sex education and mainstream media misinformation can add to misconceptions related to what is a proper big dick and what is consider a small cock.

But gentlemen, please, never forget that the penis does not make the man! A small cock is not a dealbreaker at all, such as bicep size, leg size, hand size, nose size, shoe size... What really matters is your self-assurance. Being comfortable in your own skin with the ability to simply be yourself: that is what women are crazy about! A confident man is quite genuine and can impress any women in minutes! His sense of smartness, intelligence and his gentlemanly behavior will make any lady melt, regardless of his big dick or his small cock...

Do you remember how many women you have met hands-in-hands with average or fairly ugly looking men?

Life is a self-confidence game: play the right cards! ;-)
 
Selena – The Velvet Rooms

 

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