07 / 10 / 2024
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Spanking: What is it?

 

Have you ever seen that word somewhere? Do you know what spanking means? Well, this word is used in the sex industry to describe a form of impact play that involves striking the buttocks with the hand or an object such as a paddle, belt, or flogger.

Escort Girls and their clients who are into discipline, role play, or erotic play are very familiar with spanking, which by the way is not a service offered by all sex workers.

 

Two main types of spanking

In case you already knew what spanking is, I bet you didn't know that there are two main categories of spanking.

Although it may be hard to believe, in some relationships, spanking is used as a form of consensual punishment, particularly in power-exchange dynamics such as dominant-submissive relationships. However, the most common form of spanking is used during sexual activity as a means of enhancing arousal. The practice can heighten physical sensations and emotional intensity, often associated with BDSM (Bondage, Discipline, Dominance, Submission, Sadism, Masochism).

 

The effects of spanking

Spanking can evoke a mix of physical stimulation and emotional responses (including feelings of submission, release, or heightened pleasure).

For some people, spanking feels good. Often, in erotic spanking, it is the man who likes to practice this ritual. If he is the submissive, he may be asking for spanking and specifically looking for a woman (girlfriend or an escort girl) who is comfortable with this practice.

If you are into BDSM, you may already know that in some social or BDSM circles, spanking is seen as part of a broader lifestyle centered on power dynamics: There is therefore no taboo surrounding this practice which, since it is a consensual act, only reinforces the sexual pleasure between the partners involved in this sexual game.

As I mentioned at the beginning of this article, spanking also appears in various role-playing scenarios, including scenarios where one partner takes a submissive role and the other a dominant one.

 

How to experience spanking with an Escort?

If spanking is something you would like to try, it may well be that it isn’t your wife/girlfriend’s cup of tea… The alternative would be to try it with an escort.

But here too, it is a mistake to assume that all escorts like spanking. Even among those who call themselves "submissive", this practice is not self-evident and that is why you have to be careful when approaching an escort girl with this kind of request.

Your request must be made to her in advance, that is to say before you confirm an appointment with her. Do not approach the subject once you are already at her incall location and above all, do not dare spanking her during sexual intercourse, without having at any time, asked her permission. Remember that in any adult context, spanking should be consensual. Consent and communication about boundaries, limits, and safety are essential components to an enjoyable time together.

In case she is OK with spanking, don’t forget that sensations from spanking can range from light taps to harder strikes, depending on personal preference, and can result in pleasure, pain, or a combination of both, depending on how it's practiced. Talk to the girl about how strong she accepts spanking and about how far you are allowed to go into that game (aside from hands, other items like paddles, belts, or floggers can be used, each offering different sensations depending on the material and force applied). She really has to feel comfortable with it, otherwise it is a one-way deal and that's obviously not OK…

And if your spanking is suddenly getting too much for her, cease it right away and move on in a very smooth way so it does not create an awkward silence/weird situation between you too, which could lead to a not-so-great experience.

In case you are the one who wants to be spanked, the same type of communication and approach should be considered: let the lady know about your fantasy before meeting her. Indeed, not all escort-ladies are willing/comfortable to practice spanking on their clients.

Whether you're looking for an active or passive spanking experience, the best is to find a girl who is really into spanking and not one who accepts to do it to please you or because she can charge you extra money for that. When fantasies are shared, they can draw unforgettable memories…

 

Janet – The Velvet Rooms  

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