Be his Escort/Mistress but don’t expect him to leave his wife…

This article has not been written for the experienced Escort or for the mistress who may have already been trapped in this situation more than once. The newbies jumping into this industry with no background, no support, no mentoring may find this article interesting. Indeed, “Pretty Woman”-style love stories are actually very rare in this industry.

During your „career“ as an Escort, you will certainly at least once, fall in love with one of your clients or have strong feelings for him. These kinds of stories happen to all Escorts. Most of the time, this man she has feeling for his engaged or married and has even a family.

Regardless how closer to him you will decide to be, you will end up being his #1 Escort (the one he sees all the time, maybe even the only one) or his mistress.

What’s the difference between an Escort and a mistress ? As an Escort, there will always be a fixed and clear donation involved each time you meet each other. Even if some feelings are there, the framework of the encounter is very structured and both of you know the limits which should not be crossed. Being a mistress involves more emotions and the money will be relegated to second place. The relationship is then more passionate, more abstract, less reasoned and sometimes riskier because its contours are less defined.

Whether you choose to become his mistress or his regular Escort, you have to understand that he will certainly never leave his wife…  Here are a few important points you should be aware of if this client for whom you seem to have feelings is married and/or a father:


1. He has the best of both worlds

Have you ever asked yourself why would a man leave the woman who is giving him great sex when he needs it and then he can simply go back home to his “perfect” family, like if nothing ever happened? He has two women who provide him with everything he needs so why would he want to ruin that balance by leaving either one, more so the mother of his children? Having an escort, a mistress or a sugar baby available on request is the ideal situation for many men.

2. He loves (or cares for) his wife

Seeing Escorts or having a mistress does not mean that he does not love and respect his wife/girlfriend.  If there would be no love at all, he would have left her already. Despite their challenges, he still goes back home, and he is not willing to sacrifice his family and wife to be with you regardless of the consequences. The reason you are still waiting for him to leave his partner two years later is actually because he doesn’t want to leave her…
 

3. He values his children

Despite his habits of dating Escorts or seeing his mistress regularly, he stays in his relationship so he can give his children a stable family. Whether or not he is getting along with his wife, his children can make him commit to his marriage, for their sake.


4. Divorce is too risky

Divorce cases can turn up being very messy. No one wants to go through that pain if they don’t have to. If he can discreetly hide his affairs/habits from his wife and continue for years without „losing the face“ he can keep both his wife and his mistress, happy. If the arrangement is working and no one is complaining then why would he want to put himself through a divorce which could have him loose everything (family, money, friends…)? All this for an escort or for a mistress? It's probably not worth the risk.

5. He just wants to „get away“ from time to time

Men don’t see Escorts or have a mistress with the intention of leaving their wife. They look at it as an uncomplicated sex affair or as an easy-going arrangement where two adults are benefiting without attachment or commitment. In his mind, he has justified his actions as “no big deal” hence his decision to be unfaithful. He is definitely not looking for love (at least that’s not his first intention).

Mistress or Escort : the same rules apply

Remember that men do not necessarily want a breakup when they are looking for a lover but are looking for a way to fill in a selfish need or are simply looking for some spicy adventure, whether it is with an Escort or with a mistress.

In my opinion, women must think like men but behave like women. I understood long time ago that men are never going to be monogamous. Love and sex are two different things. When you accept this concept, you will better understand men. This will even help you to be a more successful Escort in having less prejudice about men who come to see you and better managing your feelings.

As long as you accept to be his Escort or mistress he will see you when it suits him and as long as you accept to be part of this win-win situation.

If you are the mistress of that guy and that you are also engaged to someone else, you are probably chasing the same thing, that’s why you are dating him.  

But as an Escort, he may not come to see you anymore at a certain point. Whatever your feelings for him, your professionalism must respect his choice and never forget the reason why he contacted you at the first place. You offered him a great companionship in exchange for money: that’s it, that’s all.

Janet – The Velvet Rooms

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