08 / 12 / 2019
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Tips for Ladies : Be his Escort/Mistress but don’t expect him to leave his wife.

This article is not for the experienced Escorts who may have already been caught in this situation more than once. The newbies jumping into this industry with no background, no support, no mentoring may find this article interesting.

During your „career“ as an Escort, you will certainly fall in love (at least once) with one of your clients. These kind of stories happen to all Escorts. Most of the time, this man she has feeling for his engaged or married and has even a family.

Regardless how closer to him you will decide to be, you will end up being his #1 Escort (the one he sees all the time, maybe even the only one) or his Mistress.

What’s the difference between both? As an Escort, there will always be a fixed and clear donation involved each time you meet each other. Even if some feelings are there, the framework of the encounter is very structured and both of you know the limits which should not be crossed. Being a Mistress involves more emotions and the money will be relegated to second place.  The relationship is then more passionate, more abstract, less reasoned and sometimes more risky because its contours are less defined.

Whether you choose to become his mistress or his regular Escort, you have to understand that he will certainly never leave his wife…  Here are a few important points you should be aware of if this client for whom you seem to have feelings is married and/or a father:

 

1. He has the best of both Worlds

Have you ever asked yourself why would a man leave the woman who is giving him great sex when he needs it then go back home to a perfect family? He has two women who provide him with everything he needs so why would he want to ruin that balance by leaving either one, more so the mother of his children? It is the ideal situation for any man.

 

2. He loves his wife

Seeing Escorts or having a Mistress does not mean that he does not love and respect his wife/girlfriend.  If there would be no love, he would have left her already. Despite their challenges, he still goes back home and he is not willing to sacrifice his family and wife to be with you regardless of the consequences. The reason you are still waiting for him to leave his partner two years later is actually because he doesn’t want to leave her…

 

3. He values his children

Despite his habits of dating Escorts or seeing his Mistress regularly, he stays so he can give his children a stable family. Whether or not he is getting along with his wife, his children can make him commit to his marriage for their sake.

 

4. Divorce is too risky

Divorce cases can turn up being very messy. No one wants to go through that pain if they don’t have to. If he can discreetly hide his affairs/habits from his wife and continue for years without „loosing the face“ he can keep both his wife and you happy. If the arrangement is working and no one is complaining then why would he want to put himself through a divorce which could have him loose everything (family, money, friends…)?

 

5. He just wants to „get away“ from time to time

Men don’t see Escorts with the intention of leaving their wives. They look at it as an uncomplicated sex affair or as an easy-going arrangement where two adults are benefiting without attachment or commitment. In his mind, he has justified his actions as no „big deal“ hence his decision to be unfaithful. He is definetly not looking for love (at least that’s not is first intention).

 

Remember that men do not necessarily want a breakup when they are looking for a lover but are looking for a way to fill in a selfish need or are simply looking for some spicy adventure.

In my opinion, women must think like men but behave like women. I understood long time ago that men are never going to be monogamous. Love and sex are two different things. When you will accept this concept you will better understand men. This will even help you to be a more successful Escort in having less prejudice about men who come to see you and better managing your feelings.

As long as you accept to be his Escort or Mistress he will see you when it suits him and as long as you accept to be part of this win-win situation.

As an Escort, he may not come to see you anymore at a certain point. Whatever your feelings for him, your professionalism must respect his choice and never forget the reason why he contacted you at the first place. You offered him a great companionship in exchange for money : that’s it, that’s all.

Janet for TheVelvetRooms

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