01 / 02 / 2019
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Fetishism: what is it exactly?

Why some people develop erotic desires for a specific object or that part of the body? We don’t really know why. But there are men and women (especially men) who are unconsciously excited by a leather boots or plastic raincoat… Undoubtedly, in their childhood, there was an unconscious relationship between the object in question and the erotic stimulation.

 

Who are the fetishists?

Some of us are a bit fetishistic and have an attraction for a particular part of the body (boobs or bottoms), while having a normal sex life.

Even if this is not always the case, it is mainly men who are fetishists. In theory, this is because they are more receptive than women to what they see and therefore more likely to get attached to an object that has caught their attention.

 

How do you become a fetishist?

You don't become a fetishist because you decide to... but rather because something happened to you without you really knowing why or even how.

Often, in his childhood, a boy sees an object (or part of a body) and accidentally feels a sexual emotion. Later, when he grows up and experiences an erotic sensation, this object (or part of the body) will come back to him and from now on, the two will go together. If he masturbates during this sexual learning, the idea will remain engraved doubting it more deeply in his mind.

For example, a man who remembers having erections when his mother changed him on a leather mattress, may be stuck at this stage and forever associate this material with sex.

 

The six most popular fetishes

There are some classic fetishisms that are generally considered to be the most common:

 

The Cinderella complex 

Those who suffer from it love shoes. Many men like women wearing shoes with very high heels because of the masochistic connotation: they want to be trampled by them. Some men like them worn, others are excited by the object itself.

As for foot fetishism, it concerns almost exclusively men and the object is therefore the female foot.

 

The “golden shower” 

Also called "urine games" or "water sport", the term refers to a sexual act involving urine. It is the act of peeing on your sexual partner or being pissed on by your partner. It is a more popular fetish than one might think in the scene of role-playing games of submission and domination.

 

Hair fetishism 

Men with "Tricophilia" slip behind strangers, on the street or on public transport to cut their hair strands. This fetish affects both men and women.

 

Leather and Latex

Fans of these materials love boots, raincoats and aprons made of leather or latex. Many wear latex underwear and sometimes even sleep in rubber sheets.

 

Erotic asphyxia

This sexual act involves suffocation. Some men masturbate by depriving themselves of oxygen. As erotic asphyxia can be dangerous, it must be practiced under supervision for a minimum risk.

 

The uniform

Uniform fetishism is the fact that a man or woman needs to wear a uniform or make love to a uniformed partner to access sexual pleasure.

 

Is fetishism something bad?

Fetishism, long considered a mental illness or even a perversion, suffers from a bad image. However, if it does not cause moral suffering or danger, fetishism can be practiced in the same way as any other erotic game.

Some people cannot consider their sexual activity without their fetish. Others, on the other hand, can imagine it as a fantasy.

With the infinite number of fetishes available, everyone can be more or less fetishistic to spice up their sex life and stimulate their partner!

 

Janet for TheVelvetRooms

 

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